Adjusting your Relationship to Parenthood
Maybe this sounds like you:
“We are fighting way more than we did before, over the most insignificant things…”
“This is not what I imagined having a baby would be like.”
“I feel like we are roommates, not partners.”
“Is this even the person I married? Can we get through this?”
Most of us imagine that having a baby will bring us closer together. But the truth is, a new baby can shake the foundation of even the most connected relationships.
Becoming a new parent is one of the hardest tasks a couple will face, and for good reason: a new identity as a mother or father. Hormonal changes. Sleeplessness. Next to no time for yourself. Isolation. And just dealing generally with all of the stress of life with a new baby! These issues at up and become a perfect storm for resentment, disconnection, miscommunication, and even doubting the relationship itself or your decision to become parents.
Know that you aren't alone in your feelings - and you will get through it.
Therapy can help you to:
- Learn skills to help you communicate in a healthy way
- Learn how to “fight fairly”
- Figure out where to focus your energy
- Understanding what you want in a relationship
- Align your goals, priorities, and expectations
- Feel more connected to each other
- Rebuild after resentment